Monday, April 20, 2009

Hurt Feelings

Today one of my friends said something that really hurt my feeling, she is a very blunt and strong personality type person and most of the time I just ignore it but today it just got on my last nerve. I always try to think before I speak and say something that would hurt someone's feelings, if you were me would you say something or just let it go? I am praying about this and maybe I need to limit the time I spend with her.....Barb

10 comments:

This simple Life said...

I have a friend who is just like this. She is very strong and tends to run people off.
I have learned to limit my time with her.

IF what she said hurt you that much I think you need to say something. People with this type of personality really don't mean to hurt the people they love. When my friend hurts me , I say something.She generally takes it well and will apologize. Big hugs.

Wendy said...

I think if she hurt you that much you should speak to her about it. Allo if you are feeling like you need to limit your time with her its probably a good idea to do so. Be Blessed!~Wendy

Cezar and Léia said...

hello Barb!
I was visiting Nancy's blog and I saw your comment there, so...I'm here now visiting your blog!
What a nice surprise! You have a beautiful blog full of good feelings and a wonderful family!
So sorry to know about this"hurt feelings".I hope things be better son!
Congratulations onde more time!
God bless you
Léia

frenchie4moi said...

I think you should talk to her. Sometimes it all it takes to make them aware of their actions.

My girlfriend shared these 4 rules of living and I think it's interesting. My husband pointed out that trusting in God would be at the time of his list which is true for me as well.

1. Be impeccable with your words: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t take anything personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t make assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.


4. Always do your best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Angie said...

I am sorry your feelings were hurt. If you are still carrying this around on your shoulders tomorrow, I would tell her that she hurt you deeply and that you need some space from the friendship. A friend would never want you to be hurt and sad because of something she said. If she truly cares about you, she would want to know so she could apologize. I know a lot about this sort of subject, as my mother is this way. She just talks and thinks later, if ever. I learned long ago to limit my time with her because I know she won't ever change. I want to say also that it was fun 'seeing' you with your grandson...I knew you were a gorgeous chick hiding out from us! ;-) Good luck with your decision...Hugs, Angie

nanatrish said...

I would say something to her. A short, "I wasn't sure you realized it, but you really hurt my feelings yesterday." The way she responds will tell you a lot about her. It will probably be a late apology, but if she doesn't offer one, definitely keep your distance. The Lord doesn't expect us to be door mats. I'm sorry she hurt you.

Pat @ Mille Fiori Favoriti said...

I know how bad that feels. Wait a couple days and then maybe tell her nicely that it was a hurtful comment. She may become defensive so be prepared!

Sometimes it's better to let things go unless she makes a habit of it and then it's time to rethink your friendship@!

Unseen Rajasthan said...

Its really bad that your feelings are hurt! You should definitely limit your time and give some space.

Brenda Eason said...

I would turn the other cheek and pray.Spend less time and allow time to heal.

SILVER said...

There are always people like that around.

Just gotta "shake it off" girl!